How to Deal With a Difficult Coworker

Difficult coworkers are a near-universal experience, but most situations can be improved with a calm, direct approach before escalating further.

Address it directly first, if it feels safe to do so

A private, calm conversation about a specific behavior often resolves more than people expect.

Focus on specific behaviors, not personality

• "When meetings run over, it affects my next commitment" rather than "you're inconsiderate"
• Stick to observable facts rather than assumptions about intent

Document patterns if they continue

Keep brief, factual notes on specific incidents if a problem persists — this is useful if you eventually need to involve a manager or HR.

Know when to involve a manager or HR

Persistent issues, especially ones affecting your work or wellbeing, are appropriate to escalate rather than endure indefinitely.